Peak Trans

(One of) my peak trans moment(s) came first when I was first attacked by self proclaimed feminists and LGB allies for not being sexually attracted to penises. All my life I fought to establish that yes, I am a lesbian, I exist and I’m sexually attracted to females exclusively. Now the very people who talk the loudest about being allies are berating me for not being attracted to people with penises and telling me what MY sexuality means and that I  am OBLIGATED to love cock if the owner of said cock prefers to be called “she” and that if I don’t then I’m a defective bigot “phallophobe”.

I’m attracted to females, and females only. No amount of emotionally manipulative speculations about “well what if you loved a girl more than anything and then found out she had a penis when you finally got into bed” can ‘fix’ my gayness.

I said it to the straights and I’ll say it again to the transtrenders: I’m gay, and you can’t bully me into pretending I’m something I’m not.

When a transman friend of mine defended the misogynistic vitriol of a transwoman and accused me of transmisogyny and transphobia for criticizing the transwoman for harassing lesbians, calling them “dykes” and describing their vaginas as “filthy cunts.”

My peak trans moment occurred when I realized that frothy transjacktivists had appropriated the language of FAAB rape survivors (“trigger warning”) and diluted it from PTSD to “brief sadfeels.” And then they transplain (especially to lesbians), saying “you can’t be triggered by a body/ genitals!” Incredibly rude and violative. I refuse to pander to loons and their triggrrrz about menstruation when they clearly don’t respect the trauma endured by those of us who were raped by men.

I’d always considered myself a trans ally..till I discovered the existence of The Cotton Ceiling. The sheer sense of entitlement and male privilege, the fact that lesbians were essentially being emotionally blackmailed and defined out of existence…just wtf is a phallophile/vaginophile? And any dissent, even the mildest criticism was apt to get you rape threats and IP threatening. I’m now convinced they’re just as misogynistic as the MRA crowd.

Peak trans happened when I found out what “cotton ceiling” meant. Homophobic, misogynistic and carrying extreme rape overtones. Lesbians do not want to have sex with males, whether or not they wear dresses and call themselves “she”.

Last thought for the internet before bed

ilietomytherapist:

Dear monosexual people: you are not attracted to chromosomes.  The very idea is laughable.  Seriously why would you claim that at all?  The things you find when browsing “peak trans”…

Honestly I was thinking about submitting to that blog, because I did have a “peak trans” moment of sorts a few years ago, but after looking through it I don’t think “I was vilified and attacked in my own community” is the sort of experience they’re looking for.  There’s one post where the moderator/creator says they’re trans, but most of the submissions appear to be from cis lesbians.

Hi. This blog accepts all sorts of peak trans moments, including those involving trans-on-trans bullying.  However, I must call you out for your homophobia.  So what if a lot of the submissions are from lesbians?  Stop being so lesbophobic, that’s not acceptable.  Lastly, don’t make assumptions about my gender identity.

I’m terrible and a bigot because I’m not attracted to people with penises. I come from a conservative family and struggled with my homosexuality for all my life (I’m 18) and suddenly there are people telling me that I’m a bad person and not a real lesbian. I have to force myself to be attracted to something I don’t like to be a good person, and I have to face people telling me I’m transphobic/cissexist because of my sexual orientation. I feel like I’m living in an ass backwards world. -k

My peak trans moment came when I was hanging out with my group of friends, some of whom were ftm and mtf, and they started trying to talk me into transitioning. I’m a butch lesbian and they were convinced that I actually want to be a man but I’m just in denial. They said I’m so masculine that I might as well be a man. I said “no yall, I’m a woman and fucking love being a woman.” But they just wouldn’t let it go.  For weeks they harassed me about it and even got others in the trans community to talk to me like I needed therapy for my wanting to stay a strong, badass woman.
 
I was very patient at first, always politely explaining that all because I like wearing ties and tinkering with gadgets does not mean I want a penis. One day I finally snapped and basically told them to fuck off. They haven’t spoken to me since and I’ve been vilified as a transphobic bigot in the community, all because I refused to become something I’m not.

senor-bizarro:

Just…ALL THE AWARDS
No one is requiring you to be attracted to trans people. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, if the people who were all “you have to sleep with me or you’re transphobic” were cis, I think their personalities would get in the way of people sleeping with them anyway. Because anyone who thinks that you owe them sex is a douchebag. ANYONE, regardless of gender or orientation.

You haven’t been paying attention very closely, because there are a lot of pushy trans women and their subservient toadies who have been bullying people for not being attracted to trans women. Women, in particular lesbians, have been the primary target of these demanding trans women and their cis lackeys.

senor-bizarro:

Just…ALL THE AWARDS

No one is requiring you to be attracted to trans people. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, if the people who were all “you have to sleep with me or you’re transphobic” were cis, I think their personalities would get in the way of people sleeping with them anyway. Because anyone who thinks that you owe them sex is a douchebag. ANYONE, regardless of gender or orientation.

You haven’t been paying attention very closely, because there are a lot of pushy trans women and their subservient toadies who have been bullying people for not being attracted to trans women. Women, in particular lesbians, have been the primary target of these demanding trans women and their cis lackeys.

I find it extremely depressing that the honest and thoughtful lesbian's post re her peak trans moment coming about through simply asking for respect for her sexuality (and being denied such respect) is already being reblogged with comments suggesting she is being "right wing" etc.
Anonymous

Yes, and it’s such a reversal since it’s mostly right-wingers who are shaming lesbians and gays for existing.