Hi. I’m the trans man who posted a few days ago, and I’d like to add a little to my narrative, in wake of the submitted comments. Most of it will be directed at the person who responded to me.

Of course gay, bisexual, and feminine men get flack. I won’t deny their murders. I won’t deny hate crimes or prejudice. It’s off topic though. Lesbians and bisexual women are attacked too, but I can’t say as to the numbers.

But compared to the numbers cis women face, it’s not the same at all. Really, compare it. Compare the severity of FGM to circumcision. Yes, there are certainly chances where the latter has led to lose of sensitivity and damage.But FGM is an inherently debilitating action. It always involves major loss of sensation and is, in most cases, life threatening.

Let’s look to western culture for a second, okay? There are plenty of feminine boys, and they are not always accepted with open arms. But the majority of society will still privilege them over girls, regardless of how masculine the girls are.

Violence, sexual and non, towards women is high. It’s often seen as acceptable. Medicine has screwed women over plenty of times, labeling everything “hysteria” or simply ignoring women’s health.

Do you see my point? Of course cis men and other people assigned male at birth aren’t rolling in rose petals 24/7. Individual cases and other factors will play in.

But there is no way in hell that cis women are privileged for being that.

To the mods: Sorry for taking up room on your blog with an argument. I’m not comfortable with anyone from the radical trans(*) community knowing my URL. Thank you for allowing me to talk.

On the contrary, thank you for speaking the truth. I understand fully why you have a desire for anonymity, given the harsh reaction to dissent that many trans people show. Be well.

The first time I left the strident, selfish individualism of the first world and witnessed the divisions of labour and livelihoods governed by their control, of lack of, over their own fertility that I got the feeling of sick rising in the throat because that there is so much more to being a woman than outward appearance sexual preferences.

I used to be a supporter for trans people.  I still support human rights for trans people, but its different now, because I know that they see me as the enemy.  I support trans people’s human rights, but I don’t support their right to take my rights away.  I don’t relate to a trans person as just a regular person anymore because I’m always on edge, wondering when they are going to discover that I value my biological female identity and therefore might start to fling poop at me. (metaphorical, of course, I hope…)

That moment of change came when I attended a seminar on trans-inclusion in lesbian spaces.  The facilitator was a genetic woman.  She asked the audience what made a woman.  One by one, women stood up and spoke about what they felt made them a woman.  They would speak to the common experience of being a potential child-bearer, menstruation, vulvas, the expectations put on them as girl children. The facilitator would write each reason down on a huge piece of poster paper and then she would rip the idea apart.  She sounded like what she was saying was just normal, but she was saying things like “periods don’t define you.  They have nothing to do with being a woman.”  Then she would use this marker to slash through the idea on the poster paper.  The woman generally blushed and sat down, defeated.  The facilitator’s marker started to look like a sword to me.  She was slashing, not just the words, but the ideas.  She was slashing what these women thought of themselves as a woman.  Only her ideas were right, and her idea was that being a woman was simply an idea, etherial like the myst and not an embodied reality at all.  No-one else’s idea was to be respected.  That’s when I realized that this movement is about keeping women oppressed.  Even when its other women doing the oppressing, the whole idea is to make sure that young females don’t think for themselves.  Instead, they replace self-thought with concern for another group of people, whom they are taught is more needy than they and therefore more worthy of respect.  The idea that we should always defer our own good for the good of some more needy group is not a new idea, kids.  Its very old and very much made up to keep you younglings in line. 

There are many people who are trans who have nothing to do with these folks.  They are good people who just want to live their lives and be happy.  But the MOVEMENT is the most misogynistic thing we’re dealing with today.  This movement is telling a whole generation of young women what is and is not important to their womanhood.  Its forcing them to discount their female bodies as unimportant, to discount their menstruation as just a side effect, to discount the harm that genetic men have done to women, both trans and biological.  I’m not a second wave feminist.  I was born too recently to have been a part of that.  But I know being manipulated when I see it and I won’t have it.  I have the right to define for myself what is important about my female body.  Anyone who tries to take that away from me is not my friend.

My peak trans moment came when I started seeing warnings like: “not all women have female reproductive systems,” or “men can get pregnant, too,” every single time any feminist (oh hey, it also happened to be my peak libfem moment) talked about anything important to females. I suppressed my annoyance at that for a while, but once it became obvious how much misogyny transpolitics had brought into the libfem circles I just left. Once you start silencing women’s discussions about their own lives, bodies and problems to allow trans people cuddly feelings about themselves you’ve stopped being a feminist.